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Pregnancy Update

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27 weeks bumpie

27 weeks bumpie

Unsurprisingly, I haven’t been the best at giving updates on this pregnancy. In general, I have found it better overall than the last. I have felt like myself, which is a huge relief. That was my least favorite part of the last round. That being said, the last time, I was very focused on all things pregnancy: I read everything, tracked every little detail, plotted all aspects of the nursery. This time, I haven’t had the capacity to embrace it the same way. I found myself wanting to rush through the pregnancy part of things and get to the end. It’s a mix of feeling out of my body (again...), when I kinda feel like I just went through it. The first time I was enamored with all of the changes. The second time, focusing on my baby who is earthbound already, has distracted me from the one growing inside. That being said, I recognized that was happening a few months ago, and felt called to get more in touch with my own divine feminine and cherish this time more. I’ve been focusing on my meditation, which helps me slow down and be more present. Who knows if I will have the privilege to do this again (whether we can, or want to?)? This is one of the most challenging, magnificent things I will ever do in my lifetime. I’m trying to slow down and appreciate the time with baby girl while she’s still stuck with me! Based on her daily kick activity, I think she’s going to have a personality like her dad– very into ALL of the activities!!!

 

The practicalities

Glucose update:

I realize I never really gave an update on my glucose results. Well, that’s because I didn’t get them back for like 3 weeks! The lab had some type of trouble. I kept following up, but it just took a while! Thank goodness, I passed with flying colors (kinda would’ve been a problem if I had gestational diabetes… but won’t dwell on that scenario!). I found out right before my phone was dropped in the ocean, thankfully. Otherwise, it would’ve been a month before I found out!

Symptoms:

Migraines - this is new for me. Headaches that turn into sensitivity to light and sound. I don’t get them every day but have definitely been a part of the pregnancy. Doc advised having a bit of caffeine with my water and tylenol, but they mostly happened at night, so never really tried it. I would just go to bed early with a mask over my eyes and hydrate. They were most common in the second tri, but have had them in all 3 trimesters!

Acne - Or is it maskne? I’m just getting random pimples on my face, not into it. This is not something usual for me, so gotta be the hormones or the masks, or both.

Red dots - I have these red dots on my chest, which my doc thinks are from all the extra estrogen flowing through my bod. She’s ran a blood test to be sure it’s wasn’t something with my platelets, just to be sure. Just a weird nuisance.

Sweets craving - very strong this time. I have wanted all of the sugar. Chocolate. Ice cream. I’m a walking stereotype. Last time, my cravings were more acid-focused. I still have serious lemonade cravings though (yes, I know, more sugar!).

Acid reflux - woof. It’s back, and I think worse than last time. Maybe baby girl has more hair? My papaya enzyme chewables do help though, and I don’t stress about having too many Tums, which can apparently be an issue.

Lower back pain - As the belly grows, so does the lower back pain. It’s not like a shooting pain (don’t worry it’s not early labor or anything!), just a general ache. I started using this amazing Lavender sleepy lotion on my back before bed, and it actually really helps! (Full disclosure: they sent it to me to try! But if I run out, I will def buy for myself!)

Cramping - The cramps around the belly are getting real! They started sometime around the 30-week mark, and have progressively gotten worse. Maybe Braxton Hicks? Hard to say, but I definitely feel like we are approaching go-time!

 
31 Weeks in AZ on my “weaning trip” with my mama

31 Weeks in AZ on my “weaning trip” with my mama

Other random thoughts:

  • Exercise difference - With my pregnancy with James, working out seemed impossible. I felt like a sloth. My energy levels were just not up to it. I forced myself occasionally, but was NOT into it. This time in the first and second trimesters I was actually craving cardio, which I found very surprising! We finally got our “Feloton” set up in Feb and that helped a lot. It really helped me feel good. In the third tri, I have been struggling with the motivation to get on it.

  • Recently, everything seems hard again. Hard to put on shoes. Hard to get up. Back pain coming back. An occasional round of lightning crotch (IYKYK). It’s just the struggle that comes with a massive ball sitting in your middle. I just didn’t remember it happening this soon with the last pregnancy, but it probably did.

  • Baby girl is incredibly active. Kicking all of the time in the weirdest positions, so I don’t think she is head down yet. But grateful that I don’t have to worry about counting kicks because it would literally take my entire day.

  • I’ve started thinking about labor again. Wah. I watched Laura Clery’s whole birth series and I’m shook remembering giving birth without medication! So still torn on the whole epidural thing. You can read all about the birth of sweet baby James here, which in general, I feel good about BUT, in retrospect, was actually quite scary towards the end! Recently, I just learned about hypnobirthing (3 mentions, 3 days in a row, by different places and sources– I’m taking it as a sign!). I think I’m going to take an online class in it–will share when I have an update on it.

  • And along the lines of labor, my thoughts are turning to pack the hospital bag, and gifts for L&D nursing staff. We dropped things off last time on our way out the door last time, and I always felt bad that I hadn’t known if the nurses (who were incredible during my delivery) even received them. This time I would like to have them ready to go in advance.

 

The GEAR

Prepping for baby girl has been more of shopping for cute little girl outfits, and thinking through what I would like to do differently. With James he slept in our Design Dua bassinet next to the bed for the first three months, then we co-slept with him in the bed, then in a sidecar. Then he moved to his own bed for falling asleep and he would come to our bed in the middle of the night, and now he just sleeps straight through! I loved co-sleeping with him, but I’m worried about doing it all over again. So many X factors (what if we can’t breastfeed? what if she prefers sleeping solo? what if James gets jealous?), so I want to be prepared.

  • I am thinking about getting the Owlet to track her vitals, so I’ll feel more comfortable putting her in another room sooner. Last time, I was convinced it would make me an obsessive crazy person, but this time, I honestly don’t think I have the capacity to turn that way, so could just be good peace of mind. But also, if we end up co-sleeping, seems like a waste. So still up in the air on it.

  • I’ve been considering renting the SNOO bassinet. People who love it, swear by it. But I’ve heard a few stories of people who regretted getting it because they didn’t want to use it the full way it was intended. I’m not quite sold yet. Holler at me with your reviews.

  • I need a new monitor that works well for two, and preferably one that remembers wifi networks for when we are bopping around visiting grandparents (seems like such a small thing, but has been the bane of my existence). I haven’t decided on one yet, but will share when I have an update.

  • We have the Uppababy Cruz stroller (which doesn’t convert to a two-seater, unlike the Vista) because I thought the spacing was probably going to be further apart for the kiddos, so I wanted something more lightweight. Instead of upgrading to the Vista– I think we are going to go with the Veer Wagon. I’m obsessed with its all-terrain ability and that we will be able to use it for years to come. I think James is going to go nuts for it, and it has car seat attachments for baby girl early on.

  • I have the Spectra S1 breast pump, which worked great for me with James. I went with that one vs the S2 (There was an upgrade fee- S2 was free with insurance) because of it’s rechargeable battery– and I’m so glad I did. Game changer. This time around, I am getting the Baby Buddha, since the parts are compatible with the Spectra, and apparently it transitions beautifully to be handsfree/in bra. Oh, and it also has a very powerful suction! I also just read THIS amazing breast pump review post that I found very helpful. Note: you can get breast pumps for FREE through your insurance. And you can upgrade to certain ones for less than retail cost. So if you have insurance, you def should go that route.

  • “People” say to re-up on bottles and pacifiers. I probably will buy some, but honestly, James so rarely used them, I’m not fussed. I really don’t think it’s necessary. That being said, I AM considering buying one of those sterilizer machines, so that I can really feel good about reusing some of it.

The urgency I feel to get all of this sorted is finally creeping up on me, but because we have everything we needed for James, I am much less stressed about the situation. I have a feeling I may wait until she is here to decide if we need some of the bigger items, like the Owlet.

The countdown is on! About 6 weeks to go! YAY! Thanks for reading about the journey. :) - AHS


Light Therapy and Other Winter Wellness Tips

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I recently shared on my IG that I have been using light therapy over the past few weeks as a part of my winter wellness routine. I had been intrigued with light therapy, and I won’t lie, I purchased the lamp without doing too much research on it beforehand. A friend had recommended it and said it was “life-changing!”–I was sold. I knew that lots of people had used it in Chicago (and the rest of the midwest) to combat Seasonal Affective Disorder (aka SAD). You have probably heard of it, it is a form of depression that kicks off during the Fall and goes away with the sunnier days of Spring and Summer (although not always! Some have the reverse!).

According to Mayo Clinic, symptoms specific to winter-onset SAD, sometimes called winter depression, may include:

  • Oversleeping (lol. Not a problem living with a toddler)

  • Appetite changes, especially a craving for foods high in carbohydrates (um hi! But also this is totally normal to crave grounding, high carb foods in winter.)

  • Weight gain (plenty of that, but because I’m growing a baby)

  • Tiredness or low energy (Yes, yes, yes. Having a toddler and being pregnant add to this, BUT I always get this way during winter.)

While I would not self-diagnose myself with SAD, I am prone to get the winter blues, especially with spending so much time inside and (these days) away from loved ones. I particularly deal with lots of fatigue during the winter months. I figured adding light therapy into my routine was a good way to amp up my winter wellness.

How it works

According to a Harvard Health blog on light therapy:

“If lack of sunlight causes or contributes to seasonal affective disorder, then getting more light may reverse it. Bright light works by stimulating cells in the retina that connect to the hypothalamus, a part of the brain that helps control circadian rhythms. Activating the hypothalamus at a certain time every day can restore a normal circadian rhythm and thus banish seasonal symptoms.

Light therapy entails sitting close to a special “light box” for 30 minutes a day, usually as soon after waking up as possible. These boxes provide 10,000 lux (“lux” is a measure of light intensity). That’s about 100 times brighter than usual indoor lighting; a bright sunny day is 50,000 lux or more. You need to have your eyes open, but don’t look at the light. Many people use the time to read a newspaper, book, or magazine, or catch up on work.”

My experience

I started using it when I have my morning coffee and feeding James his breakfast (I just tilt away from his face). I used the lowest setting for the first couple of weeks and then upped to the medium setting a couple of days ago. I put on the timer for 10 minutes. Some days I have had it on for a little longer, but haven’t felt like I have really needed to. They say to work up to 30 minutes a day for SAD.

From what I notice- shortly after I finish my session (maybe 15-30 minutes after) I feel a big boost in initiative and productivity. You may say that’s the coffee, but I’ll be honest, coffee just gets me to my bare minimum state of a human for the day. Initially, I saw a boost for the rest of the day. More recently, I’ve noticed my alertness is there through lunchtime. In general, my energy levels have been higher than they have been in months and months (pre-dating pregnancy even!).

In general, I have been in really good spirits, despite the fact that I’ve barely left the house for a month. Typically, around this time of they year, I would definitely be getting a bit of the winter blues, ready for some sunshine and outside time! I mean, I’m still ready for those things, but I’m not overly sad that I don’t have them.

I also noticed initially when the sun went down I was DEAD. Like ready to go to sleep with the sun. Could be the toddler, or the pregnancy, but I think it’s because the light therapy is syncing me strongly with the circadian rhythms of the sun. This result hasn’t persisted.

It could be placebo, or the second trimester high, but I definitely feel like it has made a big difference in my energy levels— I will definitely be continuing this as a part of my winter wellness routine.

What to look for in a lightbox

This is the lightbox I used. You want 10,000 Lux. It also shouldn’t emit any UV light. Gotta watch that skin!

Who shouldn’t use light therapy?

According to the Harvard Health post:

Although light therapy is at least as effective as antidepressant medications for treating seasonal affective disorder, it doesn’t work or isn’t appropriate for everyone. Some people need more light, or brighter light. Others can’t tolerate bright light—in people with bipolar disorder, for example, it can trigger hypomania or mania. And even though the risk of eye damage from bright light is low, anyone with diabetes (which can damage the retina) or pre-existing eye disease should check with a doctor before trying light therapy.

So if you are worried you are at risk for any of those issues- please consult with a healthcare provider before starting light therapy. I am not a healthcare professional, this is just my research and account of my own experience with light therapy!

Other ways to maximize your winter wellness

If light therapy isn’t for you, there are still so many ways to improve your wellness during the winter. Here are some of my favorites:

  1. Take vitamin D daily. It is so critical for our health!

  2. Try to get outside every day. I know it’s cold, but if it’s not subzero temps, a quick walk outside can do wonders. If it’s more moderate, winter activities are so fun! Skiing (the Wisconsin and Michigan slopes are a quick drive away! Or cross country wherever!), sledding, ice skating! So much fun to be had in the snow!

  3. Listen to your bodily cues. Enjoy carbs and grounding root veggies during these cold-weather months.

  4. Try to get your heart rate up every day. A little bit of exercise can really give you an endorphin boost that will make you feel so good!

  5. Enjoy hot baths, steams, and saunas when you can. Take a hint from the nordic countries. It will serve you well! I love steaming up my shower and adding a few drops of lavender essential oils. Insta-spa!

  6. Embrace the inside life. Cozy up by a fire (or Netflix fire! :)) with a good book and a cup of tea!

This season may seem to go on forever, but soon enough we will be enjoying the sunshine! What are you doing to for your winter wellness routine? Stay warm and cozy, friends! -AHS

Announcement! Baby Shea 2.0 is coming in June!

Baby Shea 2.0 Shed for the Preg

Surprise! We are having another baby!

Where to begin… I have been feeling very quiet about this pregnancy. Once I told my people directly, I didn’t feel the need to be vocal about it. We are so excited! But I know so many who have suffered losses over the past year, and I just wanted to keep it closer to home for a while. But since I decided to spend more time sharing on SHED, I’ve found it increasingly difficult NOT to share this massive thing going on in my life. What better time than Valentine’s Day to share the love?

Baby James has no idea what is happening!

Baby James has no idea what is happening!

How did you find out?

We found out in October, right after we got back from our trip from Colorado. I was definitely not expecting it, so probably were more liberal with our actions than I would’ve been–had I known. Whoops! I thought my cycle was going to start the day we left. And then it didn’t come and didn’t come. Conor thought I was being overly obsessive, but on late day 6 I took 3 tests, and it was a resounding positive! COVID life meant Conor was home, so I didn’t have to keep the news to myself all day. We were both so shocked and happy. Still are, really!

Do you know Baby’s Sex?

We found out in December that baby is a GIRL! I was thinking I was going to boy mom city, so I am very pumped that girl clothes are in our future.

What is the baby’s Due Date?

Baby girl will be joining us sometime in early June! Most likely looking like she will be a gemini! This also means we will have 2 under 2 for more than a month! WAHHHHH

How many weeks are you?

I am 23 weeks. I will be 24 weeks in a few days. More than 1/2 way!

How Has Pregnancy been?

Pregnancy has been different from last time. The first trimester was still exhausting and nauseating, but I haven’t had the baby blues that I did last time. I’ve heard that boys can wreak more havoc on your hormones, which could be the case. In general, I’ve felt in better spirits and ready to take more on. Well, in some ways. In other ways, I’m even more exhausted from chasing after a toddler all day. I’m mostly just happy that I feel more like myself than I did the last time around.

I have also started to show sooner, unsurprisingly! This week, I definitely have been feeling belly! I’ve also had a much stronger sweet tooth this time around!

Do you have a name picked out?

We have several names in the running, but nothing decided yet. We are waiting to share the name (whenever we decide) until baby girl is here!

How has James handled the news?

I don’t think he has any idea what we are talking about! We keep telling him he’s going to have a little sister. He likes to push his stroller around, and we tell him he can push the new baby in the stroller, and he points to pictures of babies when we say that. But overall, I don’t think he really gets it. He’s in for a shock come June!

Is this why you moved?

Yes! We needed more space, ASAP!


Is this why you are only posting pics of carbs?

YUP. When I’m prego all I want are CARBSSSSSS.


So that’s our big news! Thanks for reading! Let me know if you have any other personal or general pregnancy/baby questions. <3 <3 -AHS

Shed for the Preg: OVERDUE (and some baby shower pics!)

Hello there friends. Reporting to you 3 days past my due date, and no sign of baby Shea yet!

It has been a while since I have posted on the blog, and that’s for a few reasons. Mostly, it’s because of the way I have been feeling. It has been really difficult for me to engage with wedding related content right now, as it just hasn’t pertained to my life in the same way. As I’ve mentioned in previous “shed for the preg” posts- this pregnancy has been most challenging in my head versus in my body. I was talking to my cousin a couple weeks ago about the dissonance I felt from SHED, work, and social media on the whole and she gifted me with some clarity. She simply replied, “I would be surprised if you didn’t feel that way. Everything in your life is about to change, you need to create distance from these things to make room for what’s to come.” It was so simple, and yet so clear. As my priorities shift, so will my head.

So that being said, I do apologize for dropping off so fully and without explanation! I will be gone for a bit again as I sort out my new mommy priorities and we figure out how we function as a new family of three.

I did want to write this post though to share some of the beautiful moments of the past few months. Baby Shea has been showered with soooo much love!! And two of his aunties came for surprise visits! <3 <3 We are so overwhelmed with gratitude for all of the generosity, love, and support. I’ve shared some highlights from his special days below.

Besides that, the nursery did come together quite beautifully, and I will share some photos of it soon! Mostly, the past month or so has just been survival mode. Third trimester in the summer is no laughing matter- especially when the “real feel” temperature is over 108 degrees! I have had very little interest in cooking. Just snacking. At the bottom of the post I’ve shared my recent symptoms and cravings.

Bags are packed, everything is ready to go, we are just waiting on the little man! We’ve tried spicy foods, walking endlessly, pineapple, and more spicy foods. Getting desperate to meet the little guy! In the meantime, send me all the good labor vibes!

Thanks as always for following along the journey! -AHS



Symptoms

These are numerous but for the sake of not being a whiner I will try to be brief. Some notable challenges are:

  • Putting on my underwear and or shoes. Leaning over is painful!!

  • The top of my ribs are perpetually sore from being kicked from the inside out

  • Acid reflux at all hours

  • Contractions that feel like menstrual cramps but never seem to lead to labor

  • Exhaustion

  • Brain fog (understatement of the century)

  • Soooo hot, all of the time. Our condo has become an icebox.

Cravings

  • All of the citrus. I am drinking more lemonade than anyone should. I’ve been diluting it or creating my own Italian lemonade with lots of crushed ice! I’m insatiable.

  • Ice cream. All of it.

  • Watermelon.

  • Toaster waffles.

  • Pickles.

I’m a living pregnancy stereotype, I know.

Shed for the Preg (Announcement!) and Thoughts on the First Trimester

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You may have noticed I’ve been a little different in my posting over the last few months. Well, that’s because, surprise surprise, we are pregnant! I’ve been dying to share all of this with you all!! We are so beyond excited and can’t wait to meet our little bebe!

Things have changed a lot in my world over the past few months. I thought that I was going to be awesome at pregnancy. I was going to be so active, eat so well–I was going to nail it. Well, things don’t always work out as planned. Pregnancy is hard AF yo. And it has taken a toll on me: mentally, physically, and emotionally.

Let me reiterate that we are absolutely thrilled. That first moment when we saw our baby on the ultrasound was absolutely incredible. Pregnancy really is an incredible experience so please don’t take any of this as complaining. I just want to be 100% real with you about my experience. I think that people make everything look so picture perfect in our social media driven world, and I feel a responsibility to share more of the gritty sides of life. Also, everyone’s pregnancy is different, what follows is my particular experience.

What have I been eating?

So yeah, the first trimester. Verrrrrry interesting. To sum it up in two points:

  1. Nausea: luckily for me, no vomiting here, but definitely extreme nausea set off my food smells most of the time. Horrible.

  2. Food aversions: pretty much every healthy food I rejected. Kale, spinach, squash (my one true love!), sweet potatoes, quinoa, EGGS(!), CHICKEN (omg still makes me wanna 🤢), all of these things have been on my 100% do not eat list.

All I’ve wanted is carbs (hello toaster waffles for breakfast) and cheese (but sometimes cheese is still not ok lol). Cravings: Frank’s hot sauce, pickles and pickle juice, bloody marys (virgin, obvi), citrus fruits, miso soup, sushi, and orange juice. Basically all of the acid.

Well, as I mentioned, I thought I was going to be one of those super healthy pregnancy people (obviously!). Well shocking myself, I have literally have eaten the opposite of my usual routine. I’ve eaten many boxes of Annie’s mac and cheese, pasta of all varieties, toast, peanut butter and jelly. The smell of food preparation of any kind has grossed me out, so I have really been absent from the kitchen. One day tortellini (bread and cheese which are typically in the clear!) sounded gross, so I had gelato for dinner. Yeah, health life fail.

However in weeks 12-14 I’ve really started to feel more like myself, and my tolerance for healthy foods has gone up! I’d even dare to say I’ve started to crave some healthy food! I’ve been eating lots of eggs, and a lot more veggies. Mediterranean and Asian foods have been the best. I have been loving nutrient-packed tabbouli, fresh hummus, and falafel. Miso soup, and California rolls have also really been hitting the spot. You may have seen I started drinking celery juice- I think it’s my body’s way of making up for lost greens. Since I’m feeling better, and subsequently, eating better- I will share my preggo eats with you as time goes on.

physical symptoms?

I have been extremely tired, and my brain hasn’t felt like it was working properly. I’ve been taking naps (and typically, I physically cannot nap).

Because of the sheer exhaustion, I haven’t been working out which I think has only made the fatigue worse. Over the past couple weeks I’ve been slowly adding in some low impact exercises at home and some light weight lifting. This week I even went to a yoga class (not even prenatal!)! I’m hoping to get back into a normal routine soon.

Miraculously, despite my eating and lack of movement, I have put on very little weight so far, about 3ish lbs (they recommend 0-5 lbs in the first trimester and a lb a week after). I also had been Shedding when I got pregnant, so I was on the lighter side for my normal to begin with (highly recommend this btw!).

Also, now I have acne. On my face and on my chest (y tho?!). They say that’s a sign that it’s going to be a girl- so we shall see!

It supposedly get’s better in the second trimester, and I’m already feeling a difference–let me tell you, I am ready for it!

Emotions?

Emotionally this has been the most extreme. I’ve felt very isolated (working from home is tough), and oddly depressed. Besides random bouts of crying, life has felt exceedingly hard. It’s like this experience has shook who I am down to my core. I guess it is probably a side effect of my self constructed identity changing into something new. Usually, I bring my own magic to day to day life, and I just couldn’t bring it. Besides that, I had a perpetual feeling of nervousness that something would go wrong in the pregnancy. AND all the while, I’ve also felt overwhelmed with excitement and joy for what’s to come. So to sum it up–it’s been a really weird time.

The good news is that the morning I woke up on my 12th week of pregnancy, I felt like myself again! I felt motivated, inspired, and excited for the future. I still have huge swings in emotion sometimes, but overall, I really I think I have my magic back. 😉✨


Now that we are “out,” I will share more with you guys about the experience. I am going to keep posting my healthy eats with #shedapproved versions- because let’s be real, eating for 2 and shedding for the wedding are two very different experiences. I will try not to overwhelm you with too much pregnancy content- but I want to know, what are you curious to learn more about? Let me know here or on any of my social channels. Yay! Thanks for coming along for the ride. -AHS